How The Four Agreements by don Miguel Ruiz Can Transform Your Life

As we’re making our 5 day cross-country trip to nestle in the mountains of Idaho for 6 months, we are ALWAYS in search for the best audiobooks to listen to on the road trip. ?One that we’ve listened to like clockwork every single time is don Miguel Ruiz’s ‘The 4 Agreements‘.

I first learned of The 4 Agreements when it was a stocking stuffer book for me in college. Looking back, I had no idea how much this one soul and his profound teachings would be imprinted in my life forever.

On a personal note, James and I have had the humbling experience of apprenticing and traveling to Teotihuacán, Mexico with don Miguel Ruiz and his sons, Miguel Jr., and Jose.

(With Don Miguel Ruiz after the 3 of us took a private life-changing walk together.)

So what are the 4 agreements, you ask?

Over time, like many good concepts, I forgot about the book completely. I hyper-focused on my career and lost that type of reflection and connection with myself.

Then after a significant internal evolution, I came across a retreat where don Miguel and his sons were the main attraction. Something inside me and my partner said, “Yes! Let’s do this!”

During the ‘Gathering of the Shamans’ in Sedona, we both fell in love with the Ruiz family. Their presence, their energy, and the unconditional love that runs through their veins are given to every living being around them. After hearing them all speak and soaking in their good vibrations, we just knew there was more wisdom to gain.

Thankfully we learned of their vision quest journey in Mexico to live our lives with Gratitude, Love, Loyalty, and Justice, beginning with ourselves and continuing with our loved ones.

This life-changing experience helped us return to our innate wisdom and live our lives based on Truth. The Ruiz family guided us to understand that the agreements we make are ultimately about seeing our whole reality through the eyes of Truth.

The result of practicing these agreements helped us move into acceptance of ourselves and everybody else just as they are. And while we’re still on a daily journey to live this way, the reward for doing that work is eternal happiness.

And for me, the greatest happiness is sharing life-altering lessons with others who are curious and open to receiving.

(With don Miguel Ruiz Jr, don Jose, and his little Yogi, when the magic between us was ignited)

So here are the 11 greatest pieces of sage wisdom ? I’ve personally gained from the Ruiz family, the 4 agreements and the Toltec Traditions that can serve you too:

1. ?‍⚖️ Every time you judge someone, you’re punishing them for agreements they never made. People prefer to judge other people’s homes instead of changing their own. Once you realize that you can’t control anyone else, then you’re free from the war.
2. ? No one can make you feel inferior without your consent. If you don’t judge yourself, no one else can judge you.
3. ❤️‍? When someone hurts you, you begin to use those thoughts to hurt yourself. You are constantly punishing yourself for not being perfect in the eyes of others.
4. ? Guilt is punishing yourself for something you want to do. Redemption is when you forgive yourself and change. It’s normal to feel pain, but you don’t have to hold onto it.
5. ?You are only responsible for your own story. Let yourself go of the burden of thinking otherwise.
6. ?️ To forgive is to accept. A belief only exists for as long as you say yes to it. Forgive yourself for ever saying yes to it in the first place. Healing is when the past doesn’t corrupt the present.
7. ? Become the love of your own life – marry yourself! If you can’t stand being alone by yourself then the relationship between mind and heart is off. Connect those two and fall in love with your perfect imperfection! Then you get to feel at home wherever you are because your body is your one true home.
8. ✨ Truth is a feeling – a vibration. It’s not a war between love and hate, it’s a war between truth and lies. Get clear on the difference and live in the truth.
9. ?️ A moment of clarity followed by action becomes a pivotal moment in our lives. A moment of clarity without action just passes in the wind. Choose wisely.
10. ?Love is an energy that allows us to create a bond. Love is contagious. There’s no retiring from being love. So get over your fears and deliver love.
11. ?You heal the world by healing your own world. We all have a world around us that impacts so many lives. By opening your heart to pure love, you help others to see that possibility for themselves. A true healer is someone who heals themselves of their own lies. You can change the world by changing your own world.

Should you connect with any of this wisdom or The 4 Agreements above, I encourage you to listen to your intuition and go on your own power journey to discover where you are protecting your own hell so you deny yourself the bliss of heaven on earth that exists on earth today.

Deep down, you know the truth. You simply need to listen and return to its calling.

This is a quick 2.5-hour audiobook that we listen to at least once a year. Tell me, what sage wisdom do you come back to over and over again?

Do you have a go-to book, podcast, or movie that you repeat annually? I’d love to know!

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